When a doula walks into a room, she may be quiet, she may be boisterous, but she is always observing.
A doula will tune in to your breathing, then breathe with you.
A doula will tune in to your movement, then move with you.
A doula will tune in to your mood, then feel with you.
When she breathes with you, you begin to breathe with her. She moves you into a deeper and smoother pattern without a word. Simply breathing next to your breath.
When she moves with you, you begin to move with her. She directs your movement with a touch, with eye contact, with hands on your hips. She dances with you.
When your doula feels with you, she projects peace and confidence. Confidence in you! You begin to feel it, too.
Suddenly, you are calm, dancing, and confident that you can do this. You can climb this mountain. You can breathe through this contraction. You can birth this baby!
A doula does not ask you to trust in her strength, she helps you find your own. Through her responsive presence, she finds you when you feel lost and walks you back from the edge. She knows the magic of hip squeezes and peanut balls, but mostly she is simply there. Simply present. Observing the room, feeling the mood, and adding just the right nudge to move it all in the right direction.
Being an active responsive presence.